So, it’s been a few days….
This is weirdly turning into some sort of diary for you lot to see, which a lot of you probably think is ridiculous. Unfortunately it’s the easiest way for me to understand stuff that happens and maybe even somebody else reading can relate, who knows?! But I’m going to keep doing it anyway haha!
Over the past couple of months I’ve started to be a little braver in life choices. I was lucky enough to be in a position to choose between jobs, I moved out, I have to make my own decisions at work now rather than spending 8 hours a day making tea, if I’ve had an argument with a friend, I confront it, if I fancy (#gross word) someone I bite the bullet and tell them…you never know! That last one is yet to go the right way but there’s still time people! There’s still time!
So why do I feel like when some of these thing don’t go well or the way I expected them to, do I feel the need to beat myself up over it? Regretting my decisions is my one major downfall. I’m what you’d call a worrier. I say things to people like ‘Oh I think I like you…let’s go for a drink!’ and ‘I’m just going to send this email to the team and say what I think about a couple of things!” and then initiate panic mode. This me after a situation like those –
Why? Why did I do that? I shouldn’t of done that? They hate me now! They won’t speak to me? Maybe I’ll just send another message to say sorry, then if they don’t reply I’m done. It’s over. Finished. SHIIIIIIIIT.
Every time I make a decision I automatically think the worst, I can’t be the only one right? It’s happened to me a lot over the past couple of days and then I saw this quote this evening – “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new” – Albert Einstein. Now, when they say Einstein was a genius, I really think they were right about that! It is SO true. These decisions may not necessarily be the right ones at the time but I’m trying new things, living life a little differently.
We are allowed to make mistakes.
Maybe we need to make more mistakes, learn from them, how do you know that something may actually not be a mistake? You could have something on your mind and say it to that person, make that thought into an action and if it goes wrong…WHO CARES! and if it goes right it could change everything!
I have to be honest, I’m no expert on life, I mean look at the stuff I blog about!
If anyone actually reads this, which I’m not sure I should probably mention where this all stemmed from. I’ve told a couple of people that, the first person, I’d started to develop feelings for and the second person, I wanted to get to know better and maybe see what happens and see if there was anything there. Both situations I regret to some extent because that thought process I mention above…think of that but like x1000!! I know right! Luckily the first one turned out okay, we’re still friends and I couldn’t of had a better response to me telling that person and it made that panic mode disappear. The second person, well let’s just say that is very much in the process of being resolved, I have had several major panic moments over it and I don’t know why because I actually hardly know the person but still even right now I’m panicking about what I have said.
But you know what, sometimes when you make these choices and these mistakes just remember it may not be you that’s taking it from being ballsy and confident to being a regretted decision. It could very much be the way the other person reacts. Their reaction is major factor in how the situation goes. It could be as new to them as it is to you.
Do it, take a chance! In the words of Tinie Tempah “Would you risk it for a chocolate biscuit?”…Shit I should’ve named the post that.